The Silent Killer in Relationships: Expectation

Imagine that you are inside a ball of energy radiating from you. You were communicating with the outside world through this energy field. You could feel the energy of the outside.

For example, when you enter certain environments or meet new people, if they do not feel good or pleasant to you, this indicates that you and the outside world are not in harmony.

It was just that every place and every living thing was triggering and reflecting something in your inner journey.

People

• When you don’t do what they want,
• When they don’t think like you
• When you have different feelings

You were making assumptions.

You expected them to act as appropriate and do something when you asked.

When you put yourself in this situation, you enter a waiting state.

You are in a state of waiting, and as long as your mind is occupied, you are not taking action.

These situations that came one after another made you feel very burdened and stuck.

It was taking you to other worlds than the environment you were in.

You missed the joy of the moment, and you were drowning in thoughts among your mind’s assumptions.

You had exposed yourself to this situation even more because distance communication had increased beyond physical interaction.

Remember! It will be beneficial for you to stop making assumptions and establish healthy communication.

The Mind Tries to Contain You

Your desire to be understood without speaking brought your mind to an angry state at first.

This anger was due to not getting what you wanted from the other person and having expectations.

The next stop for this situation would be sadness.

The chain of events that led to this sadness was caused by the mind wanting to repeat the past.

The mind thought it would stay safe by doing the same thing over and over again.

He wanted to control you and keep you from everything. He was afraid to let go of the old and establish healthy communication.

These accustomed behaviors may eventually drag you into a consciousness of complaint. It may contradict itself.

In this case, you may find it easy to infer other people’s actions. You can also say that you know them well enough and that this is their habit.

It was just your mind trying to find a pattern there, too, and trying to revive old states.

It was because he was making assumptions and making comments about people he saw outside, which consumed the least amount of energy.

Making assumptions like this came from saying, “I already know the people around me, and I know what they will do.”

Beyond Expectations

This expectation situation that you put yourself in has led you to complain and put you in a situation where you don’t know what to do.

It left you with delusions about yourself and your surroundings. It was a habit for you to judge things without making space for them in life and without trying.

Finally, it was perfectly normal for you to confirm this with your feelings and convince yourself.

Remember that feelings and thoughts are not always true. You will never know unless you interact and ask the truth directly.

Now stop writing scripts and talking for others and start listening to life.

Try to understand what he is saying to you when you take action.

The more you understand, the more you will know and see yourself.

You will be beyond your self-created delusions.

Step by step, you will reduce the voices in your head and sail towards the truth.

The Power of Interaction

As you stop limiting your life, you will also start to let go of control.

You will thus begin to dissolve the decisions, judgments, and thoughts you make about the outside world.

In this process, the mind will bring forward its old patterns, and the new attitude will feel foreign.

That’s why it’s important to keep your new perspective fresh and observe your surroundings with new glasses.

Observe life with your new perspective, learn, make plans and take action.

Turn down the volume of your mind and start making your own voice heard.

Let life flow and show you what it will be.

Take action and surrender yourself to it.

Start with a Small Step

The whole story starts with a small step. Just remember that. Now take a deep breath for the first step.

• Choose the first relationship that comes to your mind when it comes to family or couple relationships.
• Put aside all the conversations you have going on in your mind.
• Take a step to communicate without distinguishing between right and wrong.
• Let this step you take be constructive and take into consideration the other party or ask questions.

For example;

You were out of communication in your friendship, and your meeting couldn’t happen. Be sure that just as you create various scenarios in your mind, your friend is also creating these scenarios.

For that reason

1. Approach it in a way that your first step is from his perspective.
2. Express your situation and share your feelings from your perspective.

Many times, you have made an even bigger and heavier in your mind. Now you can give it a chance to take action.

You’ll see, you’ll feel relieved too!