Are you looking through outside eyes? A friend of mine was organizing an event for the first time. I decided to go, thinking about him and for myself. After having fun for 1-2 hours at first, it turned into sitting idle. I had wasted many hours trying to save him, just out of shame. I acted like his parents. I stayed there for many hours to help him. Let’s also take into account the possibility that if I go, I may look bad from the outside. I’m not arguing that this is bad.

What is the quality as well as the length of his life? A man went on a quest to find the purpose of life. He thought it would be good to go to a temple and ask the monk about this. This man went to the monk and started asking questions about life. After these questions, the monk gave him a spoon and put some liquid in it. He walked around the temple and its surroundings and said, “Come and don’t lose even a drop.” The man who took the tour came back without losing any liquid by focusing. The monk’s first question is what happens in and around the temple?

Edmund Hillary, one of the world’s most skilled climbers, was one of the first people to reach the summit of Everest. But the biggest obstacle he faced while climbing the summit was not the weather conditions or the difficult terrain, but his own fears.At some point in our lives, we all face fears that limit us and prevent us from realizing our potential.Sitting still and avoiding facing fears is like a boat only stopping in a safe harbor.Our mind works to protect us from danger. In this case, i

Are you ready to take your first step?Making a decision has always been a painful process for many people. Feeling regret after this process shows us a different perspective.I will try to share a few ideas that will help overcome these overthinking and regret processes in the decision-making mechanism.So far in life, we have made some decisions very suddenly and some decisions by thinking and postponing them a lot. We can say that there is not much difference between decisions made very suddenly

It was 2020 and on a summer day I received a phone call requesting a loan of 50,000 TL. I just asked what he would use it for and gave the money directly to my friend from the money I had.My friend wasn’t even in a difficult situation, he just wanted it for his additional investments. At that time, for Mert, that money was not valuable, it was redundant and unnecessary. It didn’t matter much until now.Over time, he continued to ask for a loan because I easily gave him the money. After a while, I

Do you ever get too accommodating, too polite, and think too much about the outside world?Until now, there were times when I thought too much about the outside world and exaggerated it to be polite and accepted.It comes from your ego when you become too attuned and make too much effort to have the self you create outside accepted. The ego has grown and knows everything from itself.If it has grown this much, it won’t be easy to bend it that much. There is an ego here that is prone to breaking.The

Do we really make every decision?I lived in other cities and I can say that the main reason for this was to escape from my current situation and my family. The part of me that was afraid to confront myself was taking me from place to place, away from my family.So far my goal has been to escape from what is happening rather than to go somewhere. When I moved to another city, things were not very different. Yes, the surroundings, friends, and places have changed. These provided certain changes to

This article points out that pleasure and pain come from a whole and directs us to think about the mind.

Do you have an answer for everything? Instead of listening to most of what was said to me so far, I prepared to respond. I can guess that you have done this many times before. Previously learned behavioral patterns may make us feel that our opinions are not respected. The underlying reason behind this was to defend my truth or to come out on top by showing what I knew. If you want to defend your truth, you can look at the other person as an opponent and try to jump over him. Trying to come out o