Look carefully at the connections you make and maintain with people. Do you run away when something you don’t want happens? Can you give yourself and them the attention and love you expect from them? These are very valuable questions because, in some situations, a person becomes horizontal and can expect certain things from the other side. This state of waiting can easily lead you to complain and become angry. When you don’t see attention and love,
It seems normal until you realize it. Isolating yourself from those people in these situations creates a victim consciousness in you at the end of the day. This situation puts you in the position of a victim and others in the position of a bully. You have been playing out this bully and victim relationship within yourself until now. When you couldn’t do a job, you bullied yourself, and when someone else couldn’t do a job, you bullied that person. Now it’s time to realize this and look at why you need it. This had a serious impact on your relationship with yourself and others. You can also give and receive attention and love beautifully and healthily. This is possible for everyone right here, right now. Who is the Victim, and Who is the Hero? Think about this victim role that comes from your childhood, see the benefits, and let it go. How have you been benefiting from this repeated victimization? We can give some examples below.
This situation also left you idle and kept you in your comfort zone. It was easier for you to stay in the parts your mind was accustomed to. That’s why you created expectations for yourself. You acted like this because you liked this expectation and the old situation. You used playing the victim role to get your way, so you continued without even realizing your own dark side. You had manipulated your environment in some way according to your own will.
It had tired you out more and more each day and left you in a state of inactivity. It had restricted your movement. It is in your hands to be free from this expectation and waiting state. You are free to take action and express yourself. Taking steps to let go of past patterns will be easy when you want it to be. The health of our vineyards nourishes the resources of our movement. Now, you can take healthy steps to let go of your expectations and offer love and attention to yourself. Key You’ve learned that behaving this way is a way to get attention and attention. Also, remember that you’re doing it to get jealous and get rooted for it. Now, observe these desires for attention and love. Get rid of your idle state and take steps toward your path. The basis of this is expressing yourself in the right way in the right place. Our power of expression will make most of the beauty visible to us. Expressing yourself correctly in your relationships will strengthen your bonds. Start offering in your relationships the things you expect from them. See this correct way of expression and interest from those around you. The concept of taking action is your key point here. Your actions reveal you to yourself. By being aware of these actions, you gain the opportunity to transform them. Taking new actions with a new perspective aligns you with the new person you will become. So, looking at yourself and transforming your actions based on the information you receive is your key. Relationship Attitudes As humans, we are in a process of giving and receiving from everywhere in the world. Every object you see communicates with your 5 senses. You meet with your own sides in this communication. Your style and intention give signals about how your communication will be. You will expand when you treat others the way you want to be treated. The issue will come from how the other person treats you and will turn back to you. Turning the gaze back to yourself and renewing it is one of the greatest virtues. Because when you look outside, the anger that awakens inside you has a message for you. It shows that you are doing the same thing in your other relationships that you see outside. Realize and embrace this fact, which may be difficult to accept at first. If everything you see outside is inside you, observe yourself and invite what is beneficial inside. Stop changing the outside and look inside yourself. Transform what you want to transform within yourself. Observe Your Darkness How valuable it is to observe, accept, and make an effort towards your own darkness. By focusing, you have the opportunity to meet all sorts of sides of yourself and observe. Conduct this observation with family, teachers, friends, and strangers. Continuously put forth your effort and work hard. Even finding the strength to look at these areas is taking a step. First, congratulate and embrace yourself for walking on this path. If you are looking for a space to take care of yourself, you can also join my Yin Yoga Classes. See you with love |
