Do you ever get too accommodating, too polite, and think too much about the outside world?
Until now, there were times when I thought too much about the outside world and exaggerated it to be polite and accepted.
It comes from your ego when you become too attuned and make too much effort to have the self you create outside accepted. The ego has grown and knows everything from itself.
If it has grown this much, it won’t be easy to bend it that much. There is an ego here that is prone to breaking.
These are the movements of the ego that we do to impose ourselves on the outside.
All the identities we create outside our egos. The behavior and attitudes we show, the behavior in the relationships we establish, and how we think about how the outside sees us point to our ego.
It is important to take its reins in our hands. Here is the key.
He is the one who shapes himself and wears masks according to the outside and the environments he enters. The more modest and unassuming a person we see, the more he can manipulate the outside. That’s how he controls the outside here. He keeps himself there and does not let himself be excluded.
Our ego can harm us not because it is bad, but because it does not move us. If you create an identity and then suppress it because what you are going to do is not suitable for this identity, the ego has chained you.
This way you won’t act like yourself.
The ego gives us a mold and freezes it. It can take us out of the flow of life. He wants to act according to the requirements of the identity he has given.
He is the one who clings to positions, titles, and money in the delusion that the things he reflects on the outside are me.
Ego States;
- It tries to crush the outside, expand itself, and grow.
- All the identities we create outside our egos.
- It is the ego that seeks respect by being so kind and accommodating.
- It is the ego that motivates us to achieve things and get approval from the outside.
There is only an ethical difference between being too polite and being rude. It leads to the same door, the ego.
Instead of fighting with the ego, it becomes important now to take the reins and become its manager.
The more hardened we become on the outside, the larger our ego grows.
A wind comes and can easily destroy that growing Lego ego.
Ego Reins
An unhealthy and unbridled ego makes a person feel like a master and makes him a slave to himself. It is very insidious in its current state.
It means taking shelter under the ego in order not to break away from the herd, being managed by the ego, and controlling the outside.
He looks like he has no ego on the outside, but he has created a huge ego inside.
The ego, whose endless desires have no end, has no peace. He is constantly demanding and trying to get himself accepted. They try not to show me hiding behind their masks.
Those who cannot restrain this ego inside cannot restrain their ego by trying to control the outside. This is where he transfers his management energy to the outside. Thus, the reins of the ego are loosened.
When he cannot restrain his ego, he flails and crawls. It has a share in the dissatisfaction. So far, he cannot use the areas he calls me correctly.
This situation can even lead to some diseases, both physically and psychologically.
Everything has its benefits
Feeding the ego is also important here as a tool to continue our existence in daily life.
Everything in life is for our benefit. Instead of killing the ego, we can use it healthily. Instead of acting according to place or people, we can act from our center.
From now on, this management energy can be turned inwards by using the areas that he calls me correctly. Here he can begin to use the power correctly.
Peace will be felt as you begin to concentrate on your internal control from the control of the environment. Transformation begins with the realization of how you and your ego part act.
In this way, control of the ego begins to be achieved.
Healthy Ego Step by Step
Let’s take a look at how we can healthily use the ego.
- Everything that happens around you is not happening entirely because of you. We only play a role and are a part of these events. Let’s look at these events from our perspective.
- Let’s reconsider the situations we enlarged and minimized. (Like arrogance and humiliation) Let’s draw our perspective on these events to the middle point.
- Let’s adapt to a certain level in different environments. Our internal principles work the same way regardless of the environment or person.